This year is definitely off to a better start in terms of sticking to my resolutions and I have found that two things are major contributors to this successful beginning:
- Knowing my tendency (based on the four tendencies Gretchen Rubin introduces in her book Better Than Before)
- Employing strategies specific to my tendency
I’ve mentioned before that I am an Obliger, meaning that I have no trouble sticking to other people’s expectations but struggle to stick to expectations I set for myself. I think that is why I have always been one of those people who tell other people when I’m trying to do something – subconsciously I am hoping that whoever I’m telling will ask me for an update every now and then. Just knowing that someone may ask me how its going helps me tremendously – I don’t want to have to share a less than stellar report!
This year, I am trying to formalize this idea of having other people hold me accountable by starting an accountability group. This way, instead of just hoping that a friend or co-worker will check in on my progress, I am creating an environment where the whole purpose is to ask one another how things are going. It’s awesome because I can get the type of support that works for me and also gives me the opportunity to do this for others (there are quite of few Obligers out there). Its early stages with this but I’ve got high hopes!
Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That
BUT, there is a risk to solely depending on other people’s check ins to keep me focused on my goals. Quite frankly, I think this strategy (if employed alone) would have anyone destined for failure. The truth is people don’t really care all that much about whatever it is you are trying to accomplish. It isn’t that they are bad, uncaring people, it’s just that they have their own goals, priorities, commitments to think about. They don’t have time to constantly check in on you to make sure you are doing what you said you were going to do.
There’s an App for That
Funny enough, so far, the biggest help has been my Habit List app. This app is quite simple but oh so powerful. I am a firm believer in the importance of tracking things. Whether it is tracking calories, water intake or business goals, making an objective account of what you are doing (or not doing) will keep you honest. Habit List keeps me honest and provides a visual incentive to keep up with each habit. It also serves as an automatic reminder (if you set up notifications) so I never “forget”. I have tried to keep a journal of progress in the past, but inevitably, I would forget to check something off or make a note of something. Using an app is simply more convenient.
I am also giving the Way of Life app a try but have only been using it for a couple of days so not sure which one I prefer just yet.
How are you doing with your list of habits?